Mission Statements, we have all seen, perhaps even been involved in writing, mission statements for churches, non-profit organizations and corporations.
When I looked up the definition of a mission statement online, everything I found addressed business. I had to go half way down the page to even find a mention of a personal mission statement and then it went on to talk about even more important is the corporate mission statement. The nuts and bolts of the definition is that a mission statement is a short statement of the who what and why of business: who is the primary customer, what you do as a business and why do you do it.
But, have you ever thought about having a mission statement for your relationship? Why should you? What would it look like?
You can take these same thoughts and apply them to your relationship. Together, at a time that is quiet and relaxed, talk about these things. Spend time thinking through your needs, both individually and as a couple, what are the values you hold dear, what are you passionate about, and what is your purpose in the world. This time together will help you become more intentional in your relationship and give you a strong grounding in your confidence and trust in one another. Begin by talking with one another. These conversations are great stepping stones, use the skills taught in previous newsletters. This helps create a culture of being open, honest and caring for one another. This many take several sessions. When you are talking, write down your initial thoughts, 3-5 traits you want in your relationship.
Think of the important questions you will want to answer as you consider the important things in your relationship. Include the most meaningful answers in your relationship mission statement. You can ask,
1. What makes our relationship something we want to grow and continue?
2. What do you like about this relationship?
3. What is important to us?
4. Why do we want to be in this relationship?
5. Who is impacted by our relationship?
6. Who impacts our relationship?
7. What are our unique strengths we bring to this relationship?
8. How will we use these strengths to grow and deepen this relationship?
It is important that you remember that all life is about choices. Relationship even more so. Making the right decisions along the way becomes easier when you are guided by a sound mission statement. One that has your priorities and goals front and center with room for growth and expansion will give you the basis for a strong relationship. Remember that your mission statement is not about describing the relationship you have today, it is the goal, the target of what you want this relationship to be in years to come.
If you are preparing to get married, consider the vows you are taking. If you are already married, what did you promise to one another. These can be the starting point for your mission statement, the north star for your relationship.
No matter how long or detailed your mission statement, just the act of sitting down and working on it together will make a huge difference in your relationship.
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