Family Blending Ceremonies
When there are children in the family, it is appropriate for the children to be included into the wedding ceremony. Children will accept a parent’s remarriage more readily when they feel included in the wedding ceremony. Each family will know what is right for the children in their family. Those needs will vary based on age, developmental issues, relationship with parents and the new partner. Some families include the children in the wedding party and feel that is enough inclusion. Others want to do something special during the ceremony to acknowledge the children’s role in the family
While we feel it is important for children to be included in the ceremony and for the parents to welcome the children, and to thank them for sharing their parent, it is not appropriate for the adults to make promises to the children. It is important to remember that this ceremony is a marriage between the adults and that the children have no control or real say so in the situation. We also know that it is not developmentally appropriate for the children to make promises to the adults (because we know they can’t keep them and then they feel responsible for any difficulties that might arise). We can help you develop exactly the right level of involvement for your children.
These are some examples from other families. Most of the Unity Ceremonies can also be adapted to include family blending, let us know which one you may want to include and we can work with you to make it just right.