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Wedding Vows

 

You know your vows are the most important part of your ceremony. You can’t decide if you want to write your vows or if you want to pick from a list. Where to begin? How to choose?

WRITING YOUR OWN VOWS?

If you are considering writing your own vows but not sure where to begin, we can offer some advice.
Begin by talking together about what style you want. Do you want your vows to be funny or serious? Are there topics that are off limits?

You can decide together what you want to say to one another and write them as a couple. To do so, decide up front how many words you want to use. We suggest about 125-150. What promises do you want to make to one another? There can be humor, you can include very personal promises (to be on time, to put away leftovers, to laugh at your jokes) as well as the more traditional promises.

Or you can write your vows individually and submit them to us. Again, decide how many words you will each write. Usually between 125-150 each. Then agree on a format. One that works well for many of our couples is:
I love you because………………….
I want to marry you/spend the rest of my life with you because………………….
I promise to……………………………

You can look at writing your vows in the same way as writing a love letter that you are going to read out loud. You want to keep it around 1 or 2 minutes long.

No matter how you approach writing your vows, don’t forget to say “I love you!” Say what you admire about each other. Your vows should reflect your personality, your love, your interests and what is important to you in your marriage.

We always print your vows and have them for you, you don’t have to worry about that at all! After you read your vows in the ceremony the officiant often asks if these words represent your love and commitment and do you take each other as husband or wife. You respond with I Do.

CHOOSING VOWS FROM A LIST?

If you are not going to write your own vows, you can pick vows from the list we provide. Even within that you get a lot of choice. You can pick out particular lines in vows that speak to you and mix them up to end up with vows that are uniquely yours. You can also pick separate vows–each partner can pick vows that touch them.

Let us know which way you want to have your vows in your wedding.
There are two sets of vows in a wedding ceremony. The first is often called the I Do vows. These are the ones that you say, “I Do” after they are read.
The second set is the ring vows. These are the vows you repeat after the officiant as you place the ring.

“I DO” VOWS

These vows are read by us and answered,
“I Do.”
1. ________, Do you,
In the name of God (Optional)
take, ________,
to be your lawfully wedded wife/husband,
to have and to hold
from this day forward,
for better for worse,
for richer for poorer,
in sickness and in health,
to love and to cherish,
until death do you part?

2. ________, do you declare, that you will take ________ to be your companion in marriage and partner in life? Do you promise to be a faithful and loyal companion to her/him? To be her/his teacher, her/his student, her/his lover and most importantly, her/his friend? Do you pledge to share all of life’s joy and pleasure, along with all of life’s sorrow and pain, for all your time on this Earth? Do you make this your solemn vow?

3. ________, do you have this woman/man, to be your wife/husband, to live with her/him, respect her/him, and love her/him as God intends with the promise of faithfulness, tenderness, and helpfulness, as long as you both shall live?

4. ________, do you so say in the presence of these witnesses that you will take ________ to be your husband/wife/companion? Do you promise to be loving and loyal from now on, and will you share all of life’s joy and pleasure, along with all of life’s sorrow and pain, throughout all the changes of your lives?

5. ________, will you have this man/woman to be your husband/wife; to live together in the covenant of marriage? Will you love him/her, comfort him/her, honor and keep him/her, in sickness and in health; and, forsaking all others, be faithful to him/her as long as you both shall live?

6. ________, do you take this woman/man, whose hands you hold, choosing her/him alone to be your wedded wife/husband? Will you promise to live with her/him in the state of true matrimony? Will you love her/him, comfort her/him, through good times and bad, in sickness and in health, honor her/him at all times, and be faithful to her/him alone?

7. The love, laughter, and friendship you share has been the foundation upon which all that is good in your lives has been built. Do you promise to nurture your friendship and the love that has blossomed from it, by sharing openly your thoughts, feelings and ideas, by truly listening, respecting, and supporting one another, by together sharing your successes and learning from your mistakes? Do you promise to encourage one another always to be more than you could be alone? Do you promise to do these things, in the spirit of love, joy and hope that brings you here today, And do you take ________ to be your husband/wife

8. ________, do you take ________, to be your lawfully wedded husband/wife, your constant friend, and your love from this day forward. In the presence of God (Optional), your family and friends, do you offer him/her your solemn vow to be his/her faithful partner in sickness and in health, in good times and in bad, and in joy as well as in sorrow. Do you promise to love him/her unconditionally, to support him/her in his/her goals, to honor and respect him/her, to laugh with him/her and cry with him/her, loving him/her faithfully, regardless of the obstacles you may face together? Do you give your hand, your heart, and your love, from this day forward for as long as you both shall live?

9. ________, do you take ________ to be your husband/wife, your partner in life and your one true love. Will you cherish your union and love him/her more each day than you did the day before. Will you trust him/her and respect him/her, laugh with him/her and cry with him/her, loving him/her faithfully through good times and bad, regardless of the obstacles you may face together. Do you give you your hand, your heart, and your love, from this day forward for as long as you both shall live.

10. ________, do you choose ________ to be your husband/wife, to respect him/her in his/her successes and in his/her failures, to care for him/her in sickness and in health, to nurture him/her, and to grow with him/her throughout the seasons of life.

11. ________, do you take, ________, to be your friend, your lover, the mother/father of your children and your husband/wife. Will you love him/her in times of plenty and in times of want, in times of sickness and in times of health, in times of joy and in times of sorrow, in times of failure and in times of triumph. Do you promise to cherish and respect him/her, to care and protect him/her, to comfort and encourage him/her, and stay with him/her, for all eternity.

12. ________, do you take, ________, to be your partner, loving what you know of him/her, and trusting what you do not yet know. Do you eagerly anticipate the chance to grow together, getting to know the man/woman he/she will become, and falling in love a little more every day. Do you promise to love and cherish him/her through whatever life may bring you both.

13. ________, do you take, ________, to be your lawfully wedded wife/husband, secure in the knowledge that he/she will be your constant friend, your faithful partner in life, and your one true love. On this holy day, by this sacred rite, do you affirm to him/her and the universe in the presence of the creator (or God) and all those in attendance your sacred promise to remain by his/her side as his/her faithful wife/husband in sickness and in health, in joy and in sorrow, as well as through the good times and the unexpected. Do you promise to love him/her without reservation, to comfort him/her in times of distress, to encourage him/her to realize all of his/her hopes and dreams, to laugh with him/her and cry with him/her, to grow with him/her in mind body and spirit, to always be open and honest with him/her, and to cherish him/her for as long as you both shall exist? Do you let it be known, by your chance of rebirth and salvation, that you swear this to him/her before all entities that bear witness in time.

REPEAT AFTER ME VOWS OR VOWS TO BE READ TO ONE ANOTHER

These vows are read to each other or repeated followed in the ceremony by us asking, “Do these words truly reflect your love and commitment to ________/________ and do you take them to be your husband/wife?”

14. I, ________, take you ________, to be my [opt: lawfully wedded] husband/wife, my constant friend and my love from this day forward. In the presence of God, our family and friends, I offer you my solemn vow to be your faithful partner in sickness and in health, in good times and in bad, and in joy as well as in sorrow. I promise to love you unconditionally, to support you in your goals, to honor and respect you, to laugh with you and cry with you, loving you faithfully, regardless of the obstacles we may face together. I give you my hand, my heart, and my love, from this day forward for as long as we both shall live?

15. In the presence of God and these our friends I ________, take you ________ to be my husband/wife, my partner in life and my one true love, promising with Divine assistance to be unto you a loving and faithful husband/wife. I will cherish our union and love you more each day than I did the day before. I will trust you and respect you, laugh with you and cry with you, loving you faithfully through good times and bad, regardless of the obstacles we may face together. I give you my hand, my heart, and my love, from this day forward for as long as we both shall live.

16. I, ________, choose you ________ to be my husband/wife, to respect you in your successes and in your failures, to care for you in sickness and in health, to nurture you, and to grow with you throughout the seasons of life

17. I, ________, take you, ________, to be my friend, my lover, the mother/father of my children and my husband/wife. I will be yours in times of plenty and in times of want, in times of sickness and in times of health, in times of joy and in times of sorrow, in times of failure and in times of triumph. I promise to cherish and respect you, to care and protect you, to comfort and encourage you, and stay with you, for all eternity.

18. I, ________, take you, ________, to be my partner, loving what I know of you, and trusting what I do not yet know. I eagerly anticipate the chance to grow together, getting to know the man/woman you will become, and falling in love a little more every day. I promise to love and cherish you through whatever life may bring us.

19. I, ________, take you, ________, to be my lawfully wedded wife/husband, secure in the knowledge that you will be my constant friend, my faithful partner in life, and my one true love. On this holy day, by this sacred rite, I affirm to you and the universe in the presence of the creator (or God) and all those in attendance my sacred promise to remain by your side as your faithful wife/husband in sickness and in health, in joy and in sorrow, as well as through the good times and the unexpected. I promise to love you without reservation, to comfort you in times of distress, to encourage you to realize all of your hopes and dreams, to laugh with you and cry with you, to grow with you in mind body and spirit, to always be open and honest with you, and to cherish you for as long as we both shall exist. Let it be known, by my chance of rebirth and salvation, I swear this to you before all entities that bear witness in time.

20. ________, Please repeat after me-
You cannot possess me
for I belong to myself.
But while we both wish it,
I give you that which is mine to give.
You cannot command me
for I am a free person.
I pledge to you
that it will be your eyes
into which I smile every morning.
I pledge to you my living
and my dying,
each equally in your care.
I shall be a shield for your back,
and you for mine.
I shall not slander you,
nor you me.
I shall honor you
above all others.
This is my wedding vow to you.

RING VOWS
These vows are repeated while placing the ring on each other’s finger. The line breaks indicate how much you will repeat after us. They are introduced with us saying, “Please take _____ ring and as you place on their finger, repeat after me.”

21. I, ________,
In the name of God,
take you, ________,
to be my wife/husband,
to have and to hold
from this day forward,
for better for worse,
for richer for poorer,
in sickness and in health,
to love and to cherish,
until death do us part.

22. I ________, take you, ________
To be my wife/husband
I promise to walk by your side,
As we face all of life’s circumstances together.
I will support your dreams,
And share my life and
love with you completely.
And so, before our families and friends,
with pride and without reservation,
and with this ring I say to you, _________,:
I love you; I respect you;
And I promise to be a
loving and faithful husband/wife,
From this day forward,
so long as we both shall live.”

23. ________, with this ring
I give you my promise
that from this day forward
you shall not walk this path alone.
May my heart be your shelter,
And my arms be your home.
May we walk together
through all things with God.
or
(through all life has to offer.)
May you feel deeply loved,
for indeed you are.
With this ring,
I give you my heart.
I have no greater gift to give.
I am so honored to call you my wife
I am so blessed to call you mine.

24. I, ________, take you, ________ to be my wife/husband;
and these things I promise to you;
I will not only be your husband/wife,
but I will be your best friend and soul mate.
I will share your sadness and your sorrows,
as well as your happiness.
I will share my life with you.
I promise to love,
honor and cherish you,
Through all the changes of our lives.

25. I give you this ring
as a symbol of my love
and faithfulness.
As I place it on your finger,
I commit my heart
and soul to you.
I ask you to wear this ring
as a reminder of the vows
we have spoken today,
our wedding day.

26. I give you this ring
to wear with love and joy.
As a ring has no end,
neither shall my love for you.
I choose you
to be my wife / husband
this day and forevermore.

27. This ring I give to you
as a token of my love
and devotion to you.
I pledge to you
all that I am
and all that I will ever be
as your husband/wife.
With this ring,
I gladly marry you
and join my life to yours.

28. I give this ring
as my gift to you.
wear it and think of me
and know that I love you.

29. I give you this ring
in God’s name,
as a symbol
of all that we have promised
and all that we shall share.

30. I give you this ring
as a visible and constant symbol
of my promise
to be with you
as long as I live.

31. I give you this ring
as a symbol
of my love for you.
Let it be a reminder
that I am always
by your side
and that I will always be
a faithful partner to you.

32. I give you this ring
as a symbol of my love,
my faith in our strength together,
and my covenant to learn
and grow with you

33.Let this ring be a symbol
of my promises to you
and a reminder of my devotion to you.
I am honored
to call you my wife/husband.

34. With this ring,
I you wed,
and with it,
I bestow upon you
all the treasures
of my mind, heart, and hands.

35. I have for you a golden ring.
The most precious metal
symbolizes that your love
is the most precious
element in my life.
The ring has no beginning
and no ending,
which symbolizes that
the love between
us will never cease.
I place it
on your finger
as a visible sign
of the vows
which have made
us husband and wife.

36. (OFFICIANT, to ________)
________ I have not the right to bind you to ________ only you have this right. If it be your wish, say so at this time and place your ring in his hand. ________

It is my wish.

(OFFICIANT, to ________)
________, if it be your wish for ________ to be bound to you, place the ring on her finger.

(OFFICIANT, to ________) Repeat after me:
I, ________, in the name
of the spirit the Divine
that resides within us all,
by the life
that courses within my blood
and the love that
lives within my heart,
take you ________
to my hand, my heart,
and my spirit,
to be my chosen one.
To desire you
and be desired by you,
to possess you,
and be possessed by you,
without sin or shame,
for naught can exist
in the purity of my love for you.
I promise to love you
wholly and completely
without restraint,
in frailty and in health,
in plenty
and in poverty,
in life and beyond,
where we shall meet,
remember, and love again.
I shall not seek
to change you in any way.
I shall respect you,
your beliefs, your people,
and your ways as I respect myself.

37. ________, I have not the right to bind you to ________, only you have this right. If it is your wish, say so at this time and place your ring in his hand.
________ It is my wish.
________ if it is your wish for ________ to be bound to you, place the ring on her finger.
________ repeat after me:
With all my heart
I take you to be my husband/wife.
I will love you
through the good
and the bad,
through the joy
and the sorrow.
I will try to be understanding,
and to trust in you completely.
I will make you
a part of me
and in turn,
become a part of you.
Together we will face
all of life’s experiences
and share one another’s
dreams and goals.
We will be equal partners
in an open, honest relationship
throughout the years.

38. ________, it is my intention
to be your best friend,
to respect and support you,
be patient with you,
to work together
with you to achieve
those things that are important to us,
to accept you unconditionally,
and to share life with you
throughout the years.

39. I pledge to you
with all my heart
and being
to love and support you
in all ways,
to my utmost capabilities,
for the rest of our lives.

40. “With this ring, I thee wed.
And giving it,
I give you all my life,
All that I am,
All that I have,
And all that I will become;
From this day and forevermore,
I choose you to be my lifetime companion.”

41. Irish wedding vows:

With this ring I ask
By the power that Christ
brought from heaven,
mayst thou love me.
As the sun follows its course,
mayst thou follow me.
As light to the eye,
as bread to the hungry,
as joy to the heart,
may thy presence
be with me,
oh one that I love,
’til death comes to part us asunder.

42. ________: As the stars in the sky and the tides in the sea are constant and true, I pledge myself to you in faithfulness and love.

________ : And as the stars in the sky and the tides in the sea are constant and true, I pledge myself to you in faithfulness and love.

________: When I walk, will you walk alongside me? When I kneel, will you kneel with me? When I fall, will you help me to my feet? And if I forget, will you help me remember? And as each night I lie down to sleep, will you lie down to sleep beside me?

________ I will.

________: If I fail to see, will you bring me understanding and if I cease to speak, will you talk for me? When I need to rest, will you find me peace? When I am lost without, will you find me within? And when the sun shines down on each new day, will you help to find the far horizon?
________: I will

Ring vows with responses

43. Because this ring
is perfectly symmetrical,
it signifies the perfection
of true love.
As I place it
on your finger,
I give you
all that I am
and ever hope to be.

Response: Because this ring
has no end or beginning,
it signifies the
continuation of true love.
As you place it on my finger,
I accept all that you are
and ever hope to be.

44. ________, I give you this ring
as a symbol of my love.
As it encircles your finger,
may it remind you always
that you are surrounded
by my enduring love.

Response: I will wear it gladly.
Whenever I look at it,
I will remember
this joyous day
and the vows we’ve made.

45. ________, place the ring of fulfillment and commitment on ________ finger, saying,
“With this ring I pledge my love.
This ring is a token of my love.
I marry you with this ring,
with all that I have
and all that I am “

Response:
I will forever
wear this ring
as a sign of my commitment
and the desire of my heart

SPECIAL VOWS

These vows can be adapted and used for the “I Do” vows or the ring “repeat after me” vows.

Game of Thrones:
God and Goddess, (Or Heavenly Father or Great Spirit) I hereby seal these two souls, binding them as one for eternity.
Look upon one another and say these words.
I am yours, and you are mine, from this day, until the end of my days

X –Men
Partner 1 “There were times I was lost, and you found me.”
Partner 2 “There were days which were heavy, and you lightened my heart.”
Partner 1 “Though it all, since the day when we met, there was you for me, and me for you. That hasn’t changed. That will never change.”
Partner 2 “Times have been good, and times have been bad, and still, our love has endured and triumphed — I take you ________ to be my lawfully wedded husband.”
Partner 1 “I take you ________ to be my lawfully wedded wife.”
Both: “Through pain and passion, through sorrow and hope, though death and through life. No matter what tomorrow may bring, we will face it together.”

 

Vows based on a poem by John Scalzi, called BELONG.

Partner 1: You said I belong to you
And I agree

Partner 2: But the quality of that belonging
Is a question of some importance.

Partner 1: I do not belong to you
Like a purchase
Something ordered and sold
And delivered in a box
To be put up and shown off
To friends and admirers.

Partner 2: I would not belong to you that way
And I know you would not have me so.

Partner 1: I will tell you how I belong to you.
I belong to you like a ring on a finger
A symbol of something eternal.

Partner 2: I belong to you like a heart in a chest
Beating in time to another heart.

Partner 1: I belong to you like a word on the air
Sending love to your ear.

Partner 2: I belong to you like a kiss on your lips
Put there by me, in the hope of more to come.

Partner 1: Belong to me like a ring
And a heart
And a word
And a kiss
And like a hope held close.

Partner 2: I will belong to you like all these things
And also something more
Something we will discover between us
And will belong to us alone.

Partner 1: You said I belong to you
And I do.
Tell me you belong to me, too.

Partner 2: I do.

 

Dr. Who Vows

Our lives are different from anybody else’s. That’s the exciting thing. Nobody in the universe can do what we’re doing.
If I believe in one thing, just one thing, I believe in you.
There’s no one else I would rather journey through life with.
I can’t tell you where the path will lead, but no matter what, I will always protect and defend you.
No matter where we end up, I will always stand beside you.
Will you come with me? Because if you do, I should warn you:
It won’t be quiet, it won’t be safe and it won’t be calm.
But I’ll tell you what it will be- the trip of a lifetime!
The good things won’t always soften the bad, but vice-versa, the bad things won’t necessarily spoil the good things and make them unimportant.
I am and always will be the optimist. The hoper of far-flung hopes and the dreamer of improbable dreams.
One good solid hope is worth a cartload of certainties.
I made my choice a long time ago.
I am never leaving you.
I take you as my Husband and Companion forever.
Through all time and space, I’m yours.
I will travel along with you to the end of the world,
to the end of the universe.
Go forward in all of your beliefs, and prove to me that I am not mistaken in mine.
Through all time and space, I’m yours.
Together, or not at all.