We are often asked, “Why should we include a unity element in my ceremony?”
Frequently couples start off the conversation saying they don’t want any “extras” in their ceremony. They will tell us they want a short simple ceremony, thinking that adding something as unique and special as a well done unity ceremony adds too much time to their ceremony. Once we begin talking about all the elements of a wedding ceremony and how each one can be customized to the couple, they begin asking questions and exploring all the options.
Unity ceremonies such as the most popular ones—Unity Candles or Sand-blending—help couples represent their coming together to form one family unit. Many couples only consider these two options and think they don’t represent their feelings or relationship. They rule them out altogether. They don’t realize that there are as many unity ceremonies as there are couples! Other times, the couple explores the options and realize that they really are not called to any of the choices they have and truly do not want any unity ceremony on their wedding day. We certainly honor those decisions.
When you plan a wedding ceremony, you are inviting people to come to your party, perhaps they must spend money on lodging, transportation, clothing, gifts etc. all to help you celebrate your love and a new phase of your lives together. You have spent a lot of money to have a wonderful celebration of your love and share the excitement with your friends and loved ones. The ceremony is the beginning of the public celebration. You will want to be sure that your guests truly understand and appreciate the depth of your love and relationship.
A Unity Ceremony can help demonstrate in visual ways exactly what is important in your relationship. During an in-depth conversation with the couple, we discuss what they consider important virtues of marriage. What do they bring to the relationship that is important to the success of the marriage? After learning what is important to the couple and what they want their guests to know about them, we begin to explore ways to share this with their guests.
If beginning a fresh new portion of your lives together is important, let your officiant know. There are ceremonies that can be used to celebrate a fresh start. There are ways to show your willingness to take care of one another and do small kindnesses for one another.
When bringing children into the marriage, there are many choices for ways to represent your commitment to including them while honoring the individual relationships. There are also ways to show the love and support of your larger community in your ceremony.
There are ceremonies to celebrate the importance of communication in a relationship. We can help couples recognize the contributions of other important people in their lives and their influence on the couple’s relationship.
There are many, many examples of unity ceremonies on Pinterest. We have one complete Board on Pinterest dedicated to the various types of unity ceremonies. In addition to the usual ceremonies, we have custom written ceremonies utilizing activities and interest of the couple.
One of our favorite parts of a ceremony is the custom written, totally unique, unity ceremony. When we write a unity ceremony based on your interest, your activities, you know that your guests will have never seen anything like it at any other ceremony, they will know more about you than when they arrived. With a custom written unity ceremony you will know that your ceremony is truly yours!